I am queer, kinky, and poly.
Queer as in "I'm not gay but my boyfriend is."
Kinky as in experienced leather daddy, crazy and versatile SM top
Poly as in Polyamorous, wife of more than 50 years, boyfriend, girlfriend and part of a leather family. Yes, it's VERY complicated and the calendar is brutal.

Faerie and queer have been a very large part of my life since the beginning of the millenium. Though never straight, I lived in the straight world keeping my queer in the closet. It's easy to do as a bisexual; society sees my marriage and doesn't look further.

Life changed as the last century closed and I came out as queer, poly and an SM player. We, my wife and I, found and became integral in a tribe of crazy queer friends and lovers, radical faeries and leather folk. For the first time in my life I really found "home". Life since then has been challenging, even difficult at times, but so very rewarding.


I host a circle of men who connect with men through radical sex, SM, fisting and ritual.
If you're male identified and interested, send me a note at my email below.

Want to understand more?
Read the works of Mark Thompson, former editor of the Advocate and prolific queer author, particularly Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice with passages by him and others dear to me.

You can contact me at rig.daddy@gmail.com